Reflected Best-Self


Introduction

Positive psychology develops personal strengths and capabilities among people to grow well and spend a healthy and productive life. The recent study investigates the efficacy of one developmental experience, known as Reflected best self (Roberts, Dutton, Spreitzer, Heaphy & Quinn, 2005).
The Reflected Best Self helps the person in identifying the personal strengths and their best positive selves (Oyserman, Bybee & Terry, 2006). The individual gets familiarities about their strengths and capabilities — the current study aimed at investigating the best-reflected self through the personal and professional email comprised of stories. The literature review was overviewed to critically evaluate the strengths and weakness of the reflected best self-oriented study to refine the direction of the current study. The literature highlighted how in a different study the reflected best self was investigated and measured among the diverse population and how it supported the current study. The contradictory have also been included t see the multicultural effect and diversities in methodology, results and conclusions.
The possible challenges, hindrance and limitation, were also overviewed to control their effects in the current study. The qualitative study design was used to collect the data from the participants and Counsel Qualitative Reseach was used for data analyses and theme extraction. The participants were a recruit and approached for the study through email. The relatives, family and friends were selected and given proper instruction for providing the targeted information. The relevant themes were analysed from the information and data was analysed to conclude the results. The findings of the study help in identifying the reflected best self. How the reflection of others and self-reflection were compared and contrasted and what outcomes were achieved to increased the potentials of the self. The reflection of the study provided evidence on how RBSE helps in promoting resilience and personal strength for the future.

Critical Literature Review

The researches, positive psychologists and scholars have been studying the strengths of the holistic and affirmative developmental experiences (Green, Oades, & Grant, 2006).
The organisational psychologists developed the Reflect Best Self Exercise, which primarily focuses on positive deviance such as virtuousness and excellence (Cameron, Dutton, & Quinn, 2003). The Reflected Best Self Exercise comprised of the brief behavioural information of the events when the subject have been at their very best (Green, Oades, & Grant, 2006). The information is collected through close people including, relative, friends, and professionals. The information is analysed, and the themes then reflect the best self-portrait (Green, Oades, & Grant, 2006). The best self-portrait drags the core theme and integration of feedback together to formulate a coherent narrative (Cabel, Lee, Gino & Staats 2015). Lastly, the applicants develop an action plan, which focuses on the future goals, covering the points what they learned about their strengths (Cabel, Lee, Gino & Staats, 2015).
Spritzer, Stephens, & Sweetman (2009) conducted a quasi-experimental study to investigate the preliminary examination of the Reflected Best Self Exercise efficacy. The 108 adolescents leaders were selected and given 2x2 design, i.e. source of feedback and valance of feedback (Green, Oades, & Grant, 2006). The valance of feedback referred to strength and improvements of self, while since of feedback depicted the sample such as teachers, family and friends. The ANOVA was computed to test the hypothesis, and the result suggested that feedback of the family, teachers and friends were found to be associated with agentic, positive emotional and relational resources.
Cabel, Lee, Gino & Staats (2015) proposed a new understanding for Reflected Best Self leading to social and personal change. They developed a theory on how self-activation leads to the social system and self-concept through interaction, recursion and subjective construal. In the laboratory experiment, the people were asked to recall on time when they were best at. The results of the study suggested that self-activation in people at their best were found to be improvement n their resistance to disease, emotion, resilience to burnout and stress, stabling relationships and problem-solving skills.
According to cable, Gino and Staats (3013) the employee's retention, self-expression, and self-concept improved in six months. The employees were asked to report and reflect their best selves at a particular time. The follow-up session also revealed the same results for organisational identity and skill training.
A similar study has been carried out by Cable et al. (2013) that depicted one hour reflected best self exercise positively influenced the behaviour of the employees in work setting over the last six months. The literature suggested that in other studies that employees do not practice the best-of exercise somehow showed a negative attitude towards self and the work as well (Fredrickson, 2001). A few contradictory studies raised a question of how reflected best self-exercise can bring positive consequences for the self and work setting as well. Researches and theories formulated the link between individual emotional regularity and sustainable change in their behaviours and mindsets to promote long term effects (Cabel, Lee, Gino & Staats, 2015).
Roberts et al.’s (2005) pioneering of best self-work provided an impressive conceptual model that highlighted how cognitive, physiological and emotional alteration create a positive self-image with long term implication.
The literature was having gaps regarding the empirical data on how best self-activation affect the employee work performance and his evaluation towards self and relationships with other employees (Roberts et al., 2005). Theoretically, when an employee reported his best self for any particular job, his positive self-inclination brings about positive consequences (Ross, & Nisbett, 2011). Furthermore, the positive image of best self encourages the employee for authentic self-expression at work (Cable et al., 2013), which enhance the personal identity of the employers and make them socially integrated (Swann, Milton, and Polzer, 2000). According to massive researches, the best-self activation can alter the account that employees grow regarding the employment connection, with a long-term cost for the constancy of the relationship at a workplace (Polzer, Milton, and Swann, 2002).
Lastly, Cable et al. (2013) established persistent impacts of a best-self intervention, they primarily paid attention to employees personal reflections, and they reported the times when they were best from their perspective. Conceptually, the reflected the best self-concept was very different from the reflected best self-activation, where the participants learn about themselves through the mirrors of others (Roberts et al., 2005).
The significant practical issue was found to be the reflection that comes from other, as social networks are more invasive and arduous to collect, but have the greater impact on personal reflection (Cabel, Lee, Gino & Staats, 2015).  No significant researches have been found that can compare the effects of personal reflection and best self-activation.  We found no research that has compared the effects of personal reflections relative to best-self activation from others.

Method

The qualitative study design was used to collect the data. The participants of the study were comprised of professionals and personals I e. friends, family members and colleagues. The eight participants have been approached through emails including friends, colleagues and family. They were informed about the purpose of the study, how their participation would help the subject in identifying the Reflected Best Self. They were also requested to participate n the study to provide their feedback actively. They were given proper instructions such as to add value and provide information regarding when they have seen me at my best. Each person was asked to share three-story to describe best in me. The total number of 24 stories have been received by the participants. The data of the study was analysed through Consensual Qualitative Research (CQR) (Hill et al., 2005; Hill et al., 1997). The relevant themes were extracted from different stores.
The four friends, two relatives and two colleagues share stories according to the given instruction. All the ethics have been followed while conducting the current study including, informed consent, confidentiality and accurate referencing and intent citation. The following steps were followed to extract the themes.
Identifying and coding domain. The themes of the data were formulated after reading the stories of the participants. The similar responses were thrown in one category with the frequencies following the recursive method. The raw data was excluded, and the core ideas were determined comparing and subsuming themes.
Code procedure. After finalizing the themes the recoded data was refined to perform cross analysis.
Cross-analysis. The categories were identified through tally frequency method. The final categories were crossed check by researchers to validate the data.
Adulting. The final version of themes and data were restored for further analysis. The end product provided the key themes of the stories.
Findings
 overview. The data was analysed through qualitative counsel research, and the following nine themes were extracted. The themes that have been obtained from the stories comprised of the characteristics such as the active listener, helpful behaviour, love for family, hard work, passion for career, writing and problem-solving skills.
Table 1
The following table depicted the themes of the current study
Participants
Relation
Stories
Themes
1
Friend
1.    I have seen you at your best in helping others. Once you were in trouble and hurry for meeting the deadline of your research proposal. One of our friends came to you for help, despite your in a completed task, you helped her.
2.    you have the best emotions for your family. You always priorities your family and try to keep the balance between work and family.
3.   you are a very hard worker. I found you like a book worm. Whenever I use to come into the room, you used to study.
Helpful
Love for family
Hardworking
2
Friend
1.     You are an active listener. I remember the time when I used to be depressed after marriage; you were always there to listen to me.
2.     I find you best in problem-solving for others, as you solved a few issues of mine.
3.     I have seen your passion for career and found your best in making gradual progress.
Active listener
Problem solver
Passion for career

3
Friends
1.      You are introvert but did not hold negative stuff inside you for so long. Catharsis helps in making you a good person. Once you were in a difficult situation. The opponent was accusing you. You did not bother and spoke the truth each time.
2.      I found you best in hard work, during hostel life you used to spend more time in studies rather than other activities. Your passion for study and career was high, and you put your best effort to achieve your target.
3.      I find you best in creative writing; twice you wrote an article which became your strength. So, I have seen these three things best in you.
Respectful or well mannerd
Hard working
Writing skills
4
Friends
1.      You are not ill-mannered or outspoken, which is good for you. In several situations when things were worst, you did not use any bad word. For me, it is the best quality.
2.      I have seen hard work is best in you. I find you working hard for your projects, articles and other assignments.
3.      I have seen purity and sincerity in you. I have seen you showing empathy for others even a few people used to get an advantage.
Respectful or well mannered
Hardworking
Sincere
5
Relative
1.       For me, the best part of you is your manners and respectful attitude towards others. You were very respectful of teachers and even for friends as well.
2.      The passion for career and studies is best in you.
3.      Sincerity for close relation is best in you. I found you sincere with other people.
Respectful and well mannered
Passion for career
Sincerity
6
Relative
1.      Sincerity and love for your family are best in you. I have seen how you used to help your friends and sisters in their problems either academic or personal.
2.      You are a hard worker who is best in you. Your successful career is your achievement.
3.      well mannerism is your biggest strength. You know well the appropriate use of words.

Sincerity
Hardworking
Well mannered

7
Colleague
1.      The hard work is your best quality. You used to be hardworking in student life and still in professional life you work in a very organised way.
2.      Writing skills and understanding for a conceptual task is your strength.
3.      Devotion and priorities for work is exceptional in you.

Hardworking
Writing and comprehensive skills
Passion for career
8
Colleague
1.      Love for work the most prominent quality of yours. You do not work for money but because of your passion and love.
2.      Hardworking is the greatest strength of yours. I found you a very hardworking person.
3.      Love for family is evident and you do not scarifies for that. I have seen you in guilt for multiple times for not giving enough time to a family because of work.
Passion for career
Hardworking
Love for family


Table 2
Table 2 provided the frequencies of responses
Sr.No
Themes
Frequencies
1
Hardworking
6
2
Passion for career
4
3
Sincerity
3
4
Writing skills
2
5
Active listener
1
6
Problem solving
1
7
Helpful
1
8
Well mannered
4
9
Love for family
2

Interpretation of Responses
The responses of the participants have been coded in the above-mentioned categories which depicted the frequency distribution. The nine themes have been extracted from the 24 stories of eight participants comprised of friends, family and colleagues category.
Hardworking. Among 24 stories six stories depicted that the quality of hardworking. 6 participants stated that they found the subject very hardworking in studies or career. The maximum number of responses have been obtained for this category. Different participants narrated different stories that were student and career life oriented. In student life, it has been reported that the subject used to spend the maximum number of hours in study to perfume better in the projects. One story depicted that how the client was good in research and how much handwork he used to etc. similarly, two stories depicted that the career was very much important for the client and he used to spend hours to hours to search for a good job.
Passion for Career. Another category which was reported by the participants was a passion for career. According to the participant, they found the subject very passionate about a study and stated the relevant stories, which depicted how the subject used to show his passion and how she achieved her target.
Sincerity. The friends and family members of the participants also reported that the subject was very sincere with their closed one. Whenever they encountered any trouble, the subject provided their full support with sincerity.
            Writing skills. Two stories depicted the best self characteristic of the self as writing skills. The participants reported that they find the writing skills best in a subject and it was the best quality they have ever seen in her.
            Love for a family. According to two participants, the subject had the deep love for her family, which was fund to be one of the best quality. According to them, they have seen love and respect for a family on a high scale.
            Active Listener. According to one of the friends of the subject, active listening is the best quality in the subject. The participant reported a story which highlighted how the subject had been an active listener in a different situation with the client. 
             Problem Solving. According to a story the subject was reported to having problem-solving skills. The participant narrated a story of how her married life issues ad conflict was resolved with the suggestion and advice of the subject.
    Helpful. One of the participants stated that the subject was helpful to others. He reported he mentioned a story which was showing the helpful attitude of the subject towards others. The story revolves around student life how the subject used to be helpful towards others, and one example has been illustrated, such as how subject used to care and help for poor and beggars.
    Well mannered. The content of the four stories depicted that the subject (me) was well mannered with the family members, friends and colleagues. Four stories have been narrated with well-mannerism including student life, how the subject showed the well-manned behaviour in the class and even outside the class. One story depicted the well-mannered behaviour with friends, and how in the toughest time the subject responded in a well-mannered way. Another story highlighted the situation with family members that the subject followed the rules and regulation of family in a very fine way. Last story comprised of subject self-discipline, how his way of talking, eating and other habits showed the well-mannered behaviour.


Reflection
The results of the above finding provided the possible strengths about me. Who I am best at and what’s my potentials.
Who I am best at. According to the above responses I am best at multiple domains such as according to the majority of responses I am best in hardworking. Secondly, a majority of respondents stated that passion for career and well mannerism is my second biggest strength. Some stories depicted that writing skills and love for family are the best characteristics in me. Only a few participants stated that I am best at active listening, helpful behaviour and problem-solving.
How others define best how do I reconcile any inconsistencies? According to other hard working, passion for career and well mannerism are my biggest strengths. According to my passion for career, love for family and writing skills and hard work are my biggest strengths. Active listening, helpful behaviour and problem solving and sincerity are secondary characteristic. The one most prominent characteristic the people have ignored about my way consistency. Without consistency, academic and career life cannot be developed or progress.
Commonalities and differences across the different stories. The commonality among different stories was that almost all the participants were focusing on the passion for career, hard work and writing skills either they were friends, family or colleagues. They have seen best at me regarding my career-oriented things. The difference has been noticed in terms of nature or personality traits such as a few stated me as a helpful person. While according to others I’m an active listener, or problem solver, and well mannered. A few found me sincere and my love for family. The personality traits vary from person to person, and they stated their stories based on their nature of interaction and experience with me. Whose feedback matters and why? The feedback of all the colleagues, friends and family members matters a lot as I have spent enough time all of them and they have defined me well.
Are there any new insights gained from the RBS exercise? Yes, I have learned a lot about me, how others perceive me and how I look at myself. Before this exercise, I was not as much aware of my strengths such as active listening, helpful behaviour and sincerity. I was aware of my passion for career and love for family, but this exercise helped me understand how much I’m good in career-oriented task. What has been reinforced about me because of RBS? I have realised a bit more hard work can take to the top of my career. People around me perceive me as a hard working person who has enhanced my confidence, and it will work as a reinforce to make more progress.
What are enablers and barriers to being my best self both personal and situational? The enables family and loved ones support that can help in enhancing my potential even more. The barriers are a stressful environment and lack of opportunities to make progress in the career life.
Self-reflection statement. The positive thinking, consistency and hard work will help me in taping my potentials. My hard work, consistency, love for others, sincerity and passion, make me unique, and I shall help others to groom well in their career too. The standards I will use to define success in my professional life is love with your work, following consistency and hard work. My life needs to be more organised in professional life to set an example for other peoples.
Conclusion
Reflected Best Self is very effective exercise to identify the personal potential and to groom well. the aim of the current study was to identifying the reflected best self. The 8 participants were recruit through emails for collecting the data. Each participant was asked to share three stories regarding what they have seen best in me. The participants responded through email and on the bases of their stories the revlevant themes were extracted. the Qualitative Research Council method was used to analyse the data. the results of the study suggested that well mannerism, sincerity, active listening, love for family, passion for career, hardworking, writing skills, helpful behavior, hard work and problem solving are the best in me. the themes helps in understanding the discrepancies between how other people see and and how I view myself. a slight difference was found between the views of other and mine self perception. The findings also helps me in taping my potentional in me career as well as personal lives. furthermore I set standard for professional success such as love for work and consistency. in short, the exercise was very helpful in deteminging the current position as well as making more progress in the future.